Knowing When To Shut Up - Part One

Sometimes, some words slip out of our mouths and it's too late to undo what we said. It's normal that we show reactions when someone triggers us and we get offended. Usually, we try to defend ourselves by hurting the other person back without processing what is happening at that moment. The question is Why shut up when it feels good to let it out? Because we feel like crap afterwards and wish we behaved differently. It's similar to craving for junk food, love eating every moment of it but feeling ashamed after. Sounds familiar?

So when is the right time to shut up?




1. When someone insults you

You have got to understand that hitting back only means that you are pulling yourself down to the same level with the other person. People insult others to feel better about themselves, that's poor thinking or not thinking at all! Insult or bringing other people down is a weakness. If you read the most successful people's biographies, you will realize that rarely any of them fired back. You should always act like a gentleman/lady if you want to become successful and respected. 

You simply don't need to be rude, instead:  

Learn to ignore and let it go. 
Learn not to be reactive but proactive. 
You define who you are, not others. 


According to dictionary, the antonym of reactive is IGNORANT. The more you ignore, the calmer your are going to feel. It's pretty damn hard to try at first, nobody said it was an easy change to make in your life. If it was easy, everyone would be successful.


2. Coming Soon, Stay Tuned :) 

Claim Your Destiny!

Age does not create wisdom! Experience does!!

Take actions, keep failing until you succeed.

You need inspirational quotes to get off your butt and get work done?



Here's a list of 101 inspirational quotes from successful people.

We Are Our Experiences! You can't Succeed Without making Mistakes!

Making mistakes sucks big time! Nobody likes to make them but those terrible mistakes made you the person you are today!

Some people regret marrying to their exes and how they wasted all those years staying in that marriage. In my opinion, it took YOU that many years to realize that it was a mistake.




We can't learn without making mistakes, we just cant! you can't learn everything in the books, you need to FEEL the mistake to learn your lesson. If you repeat your mistake then that's your choice! It's not a mistake anymore! You chose to do it again. It's as simple as that.






A beautiful quote by our beloved Robin Williams from the movie Good Will Hunting:

“ You need to truly have life experience to understand what life fully has to offer. You can’t learn everything from reading it in books. You need to feel life. You need to feel the sun on your face, and experience relationships. get out there and live your life! You need to make mistakes, you need to get dirty, you need to meet new people! don’t live behind your books, or your school work. those things are great, but there is only so much you can learn inside of 4 walls. go out there and live your life!” 

– Robin Williams

I never fail, either I succeed or I learn. HA!

"Failures are steps in the ladder of success."

— James Allen

You failed? you got rejected? GOOD! Almost all of us give up after failing at something. It's normal, it's human nature. Nobody likes to fail! But you can turn it around, it's HARD but do you want to live the rest of your life wondering what you would've, could've, should've?! I think not! 

The most important thing is to accept the fact that you failed. I think it's the word "failure" that scares us most. Nobody wants to brag about how many times we failed. 

 

We have a lot of EGO and we have got to let go of it in order to succeed. It's a MUST! 

You can't have both! It's the ego that is holding you back. It's the ego that is hiding the truth from you. It took me years to learn how to accept failure, it was a lot for me to take, a lot to digest! It's still hard, but I have changed my attitude towards it.

Then I learned to digest the information right away, it's really really HARD but once you do it, you feel lighter, you analyze what went wrong, what you should've done and what to do better next time. You clear your mind!!!

The truth is, everyone fails, even the most important people in the world failed a couple of times to get what they are now. You need to believe in yourself and in your goal. If you don't then you really don't want it that bad? right?!

Read some of the most important people's failure before they succeeded http://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20130715085900-64875646-the-one-thing-successful-people-never-do

-NS 

How much time do you waste everyday?

Did you plan something last year but haven't got anywhere with it yet?
Do you ever feel like time flies and is out of YOUR control? Does time really fly?!

The question is: What DO YOU do all day?!

Then what you need is an EYE OPENER! I came across this infographic a while ago and it really changed my life. Not kidding!

The infographic is about
How The World's Most Brilliant People Scheduled Their Days


You can find out how you schedule your day using Excel Pie Chart. If you don't know how then you can visit http://office.microsoft.com/en-ca/excel-help/present-your-data-in-a-pie-chart-HA010211848.aspx to learn how to do it! :)

The interesting part is, most of them socialized and exercised! Maybe we underestimate socializing or not doing it right! Networking is always a great way to meet people in your field. It takes effort but definitely worth it. Exercising is a must! I will share more on this. 

When I first calculated mine, I was surprised how much time I waste all day without realizing it! and worse than that, I used to spend 5% of my day working on my passion! which was half an hour. I thought being productive for half an hour was better than doing it for hours of not doing it right! BUT c'mon!!! half an hour?! I found on that I spent hours on the internet and other stuff. It was an eye opener for me and I hope it's the same for you! 


 - NS

Don't let tomorrow be an option!!!

How many times have you put something off until tomorrow? Almost everyday! 

Procrastination!

According to Wikipedia,
"Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time, sometimes to the "last minute" before the deadline."




The thing is: It is important, it's usually what benefits us most when we accomplish it! But we simply don't and choose to put it off. 

The problem is we don't even realize that we are procrastinating. We waste more energy on thinking about it rather than getting it done. 




 

Here's some awesome articles about how to stop procrastination. Do it NOW!!! 

http://lifehacker.com/5886128/how-seinfelds-productivity-secret-fixed-my-procrastination-problem
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6023/Stop-Procrastinating-in-6-Steps.html

 -NS