Knowing When To Shut Up - Part One

Sometimes, some words slip out of our mouths and it's too late to undo what we said. It's normal that we show reactions when someone triggers us and we get offended. Usually, we try to defend ourselves by hurting the other person back without processing what is happening at that moment. The question is Why shut up when it feels good to let it out? Because we feel like crap afterwards and wish we behaved differently. It's similar to craving for junk food, love eating every moment of it but feeling ashamed after. Sounds familiar?

So when is the right time to shut up?




1. When someone insults you

You have got to understand that hitting back only means that you are pulling yourself down to the same level with the other person. People insult others to feel better about themselves, that's poor thinking or not thinking at all! Insult or bringing other people down is a weakness. If you read the most successful people's biographies, you will realize that rarely any of them fired back. You should always act like a gentleman/lady if you want to become successful and respected. 

You simply don't need to be rude, instead:  

Learn to ignore and let it go. 
Learn not to be reactive but proactive. 
You define who you are, not others. 


According to dictionary, the antonym of reactive is IGNORANT. The more you ignore, the calmer your are going to feel. It's pretty damn hard to try at first, nobody said it was an easy change to make in your life. If it was easy, everyone would be successful.


2. Coming Soon, Stay Tuned :) 

Let Go & Move On

 We all have some ugly memories that never leave us alone. Some bad news, breakups, divorces, deaths, bad people, etc..we try our best to avoid it as much as possible but anything could trigger it as it just happened... the pain is so fresh that ruins the rest of your day...or maybe your week...next thing you know is that you've been trying to deal with this your whole life and you still can't get over it.

Unfortunately, we barely recall good memories. Bad News is like a poison, it needs to get out of your system or it kills you. The biggest reason is that we try to figure out what happened that it happened or how it happened...analyzing it over and over again in our heads. We practice it whenever we get a chance, as a result, it becomes a part of us like a habit. You got to understand that nobody feels good about it, but there's nothing that could be done about it.

One helpful strategy is that you need to face the fact when it happens. You need to digest the information first. You need to feel the pain physically and mentally through your whole body, it hurts SO bad but it's better than hurting for life. Take a few minutes for yourself, let it all out...deal with it. This strategy helps you getting it out of your system right away. You will realize how much it can help you, you automatically won't think about it as often as you used to and therefore, it won't become a part of you.