Knowing When To Shut Up - Part One

Sometimes, some words slip out of our mouths and it's too late to undo what we said. It's normal that we show reactions when someone triggers us and we get offended. Usually, we try to defend ourselves by hurting the other person back without processing what is happening at that moment. The question is Why shut up when it feels good to let it out? Because we feel like crap afterwards and wish we behaved differently. It's similar to craving for junk food, love eating every moment of it but feeling ashamed after. Sounds familiar?

So when is the right time to shut up?




1. When someone insults you

You have got to understand that hitting back only means that you are pulling yourself down to the same level with the other person. People insult others to feel better about themselves, that's poor thinking or not thinking at all! Insult or bringing other people down is a weakness. If you read the most successful people's biographies, you will realize that rarely any of them fired back. You should always act like a gentleman/lady if you want to become successful and respected. 

You simply don't need to be rude, instead:  

Learn to ignore and let it go. 
Learn not to be reactive but proactive. 
You define who you are, not others. 


According to dictionary, the antonym of reactive is IGNORANT. The more you ignore, the calmer your are going to feel. It's pretty damn hard to try at first, nobody said it was an easy change to make in your life. If it was easy, everyone would be successful.


2. Coming Soon, Stay Tuned :) 

Let Go & Move On

 We all have some ugly memories that never leave us alone. Some bad news, breakups, divorces, deaths, bad people, etc..we try our best to avoid it as much as possible but anything could trigger it as it just happened... the pain is so fresh that ruins the rest of your day...or maybe your week...next thing you know is that you've been trying to deal with this your whole life and you still can't get over it.

Unfortunately, we barely recall good memories. Bad News is like a poison, it needs to get out of your system or it kills you. The biggest reason is that we try to figure out what happened that it happened or how it happened...analyzing it over and over again in our heads. We practice it whenever we get a chance, as a result, it becomes a part of us like a habit. You got to understand that nobody feels good about it, but there's nothing that could be done about it.

One helpful strategy is that you need to face the fact when it happens. You need to digest the information first. You need to feel the pain physically and mentally through your whole body, it hurts SO bad but it's better than hurting for life. Take a few minutes for yourself, let it all out...deal with it. This strategy helps you getting it out of your system right away. You will realize how much it can help you, you automatically won't think about it as often as you used to and therefore, it won't become a part of you.

How much time do you waste everyday?

Did you plan something last year but haven't got anywhere with it yet?
Do you ever feel like time flies and is out of YOUR control? Does time really fly?!

The question is: What DO YOU do all day?!

Then what you need is an EYE OPENER! I came across this infographic a while ago and it really changed my life. Not kidding!

The infographic is about
How The World's Most Brilliant People Scheduled Their Days


You can find out how you schedule your day using Excel Pie Chart. If you don't know how then you can visit http://office.microsoft.com/en-ca/excel-help/present-your-data-in-a-pie-chart-HA010211848.aspx to learn how to do it! :)

The interesting part is, most of them socialized and exercised! Maybe we underestimate socializing or not doing it right! Networking is always a great way to meet people in your field. It takes effort but definitely worth it. Exercising is a must! I will share more on this. 

When I first calculated mine, I was surprised how much time I waste all day without realizing it! and worse than that, I used to spend 5% of my day working on my passion! which was half an hour. I thought being productive for half an hour was better than doing it for hours of not doing it right! BUT c'mon!!! half an hour?! I found on that I spent hours on the internet and other stuff. It was an eye opener for me and I hope it's the same for you! 


 - NS

Unleash The Inner You

Hi everyone!

Welcome to "The Inner Vous"!!!
As you already know, vous means "you" in French and I think we cover up this part of us pretty well. How many times have you felt that being you is wrong? Like expressing some sort of feelings, acting in different way to cover what's happening inside. What is really within us? underneath us?

We act in a certain way, for some reasons, and we limit ourselves from being who we really are. Don't you think? We already know this, there's nothing new to tell. Think about if we unleashed the inner us, what would happen? Not caring what others say, not caring if we fail, not caring what happens next...

I started this blog to share useful resources and learn from great minds like YOU! We don't need to be famous to inspire others. We can simply inspire each other. Sometimes you connect more with strangers than those
who see us every single day. Message me if you feel the same ;)  

-NS