Sometimes,
some words slip out of our mouths and it's too late to undo what
we said. It's normal that we show reactions when someone triggers us and
we get offended. Usually, we try to defend ourselves by hurting the
other person back without processing
what is happening at that moment. The question is Why shut up when it feels good to let it out? Because
we feel like crap afterwards and wish we behaved differently. It's similar to craving for junk food, love eating every moment of it but feeling ashamed
after. Sounds familiar?
So when is the right time to shut up?
1. When someone insults you
You
have got to understand that
hitting back only means that you are pulling yourself down to the same level
with the other person. People insult others to feel better about themselves, that's poor thinking or not thinking at all! Insult or bringing other people down is a weakness. If you read the most successful people's
biographies, you will realize that rarely any of them fired back.
You should always act like a
gentleman/lady if you want to become successful and respected.
You simply
don't need to be rude, instead:
Learn to ignore and let it go.
Learn not to be
reactive but proactive.
You define who you are, not others.
According
to dictionary,
the antonym of reactive is IGNORANT. The more you ignore, the calmer
your are
going to feel. It's pretty damn hard to try at first, nobody said it was an
easy change to
make in your life. If it was easy, everyone would be successful.
2. Coming Soon, Stay Tuned :)